What is Charm?
Charm is one of the most useful qualities a person can possess. It eases social eases social interaction, and prevents fights. But what is it? And why do some people have truckloads of it while others equally intelligent and physically attractive fail to exude a glimmer of that stuff?
Charm is not about what a person does but it’s about how they make others feel.
A party or social gathering makes a good place for studying charm. The guests who display most charm are often those whose voice you hear least but they are surrounded by eager talkers. At parties one needs to give people some encouragement to talk. The most effective are those that make people feel they are important and interesting.
The most vital thing is empathy, the ability to know, intuitively, what the other actually feels. It is not a conscious effort as we pick up clues about other people by little gestures, like body language and facial expressions.
There are basically two types of smiles—the social smiles and the genuine smile. The first can be turned on or off at will, but the second is the real smile, which is also reflected in the eyes of the beholder.
More so, real charmers do not make people listen to their own stories but prefer to listen to others, because radiating false charm is worse than not having any charm.
The most important thing while listening to the other persons’ conversation is that we should be gentle so that the other person can easily approach us. And to maintain this type of attitude, we should be non-aggressive and a patient listener.