Intention is the main thing, not the words
One day, little Deepak asked his granny, “Granny, did you and grandpa scold father just like he scolds me?” Granny laughed and said, “Dear Deepak, no parents want to scold their children. But sometimes, to make the children understand the difference between right and wrong, they need to do that. That doesn’t mean that they don’t love them. Always remember that parents scold their children for their betterment.” Deepak understood and hugged his granny.
Moral: Intention is the main thing, not the words.